W T F(riday)

A few Fridays ago, one of my dearest lesbi friends who I hadn’t seen in months asked me to join her and a couple of other friends for drinks at L Bar. I said yes, thinking it would be low key. Quiet. Calm. Or at least, not a huge lesbian blow out because L Bar only completely caters to lesbians on Saturdays (their myspace explains why).

I get there and the parking lot is so full, but I thought surely, if it were a girl party, my friend would have warned me. It’s probably Dirty Disco or some other event geared towards the general non-homo  public.


Michigan freaking Avenue was playing so, like, every dyke and their BFF was there. I wanted to kick my friend’s ass.

Let me clarify, I have no problems with Michigan Avenue. I like them a lot actually. Remember when I wrote about them?

I do, however, usually have a problem being surrounded by other lesbians. (I know, it’s weird…how can you be  afraid of what you are?) It’s intimidating. There’s so much pressure. I get very anxious.  I wasn’t prepared to be in a crowded room with other women who like women, wanting to have conversation but not knowing if it will be construed as flirting; being around cliques of girls who have drama with other cliques of girls;  not really being in any of said cliques because all my friends are gay boys, so feeling even more awkward and left out.  Thankfully, my girlfriend was with me. Otherwise, I might not have made it through the night.

Do you guys feel this way when you go out? I’m not even a shy person (and I’m not even trying to holla at anyone!), but get me around more than 10 lesbians at once and I am a sweaty, nervous, cowering little girl. ugh.

Anyway, Michigan Avenue is playing again this Friday at George’s…

Are you going? Can we become friends before then so I’ll have someone to talk to instead of standing in the corner, nervously downing bottles of Budweiser by myself? Thanks. See you soon.


…And the PRIDE party keeps on rolling.

Niiiiice turn out at the Baton Rouge Pride Fest, ladies. I mean, really, there were so many of you there that I never see out at the  bars or other LGBTQ meetings/events or anywhere! Where have y’all been? You know, I actually overheard someone introduce her friend to a group of people saying “This is xxxxx, she’s becoming one of those recluse-lesbians…” Like, that’s a thing?! Don’t let that be a thing! Don’t be recluse-lesbians! If you hide, how can this city continue to diversify itself? How can it cater to you if you don’t let it? If you hide, how will you (and okay, I’ll be selfish and add we, the people who do go out and see the same faces over and over….not that those faces aren’t lovely, but ponds could always use more fish!) make new friends? New girlfriends? Future business partners? Future roommates? Get out of the closet, get out in the scene. Do you get it? Girl Get Out.

Okay, also, there were like a gajillion booths with things that are beneficial to you…the GLMA table had info like “Top 10 Things Lesbians Should Discuss with their Healthcare Provider” and “What to Tell Your Healthcare Provider if You’re Transitioning”. The Southeastern Nursing School table taught me that the lesbian community has a higher prevalence of overweight and obese women than the heterosexual community, that Baton Rouge is 2nd in the nation in AIDS cases, that most suicide attempts in the LGBTQ community are linked to relationship breakups, and other statistics that the gay-fearing world will try to use against us. Planned Parenthood had  a bowl of starbursts and a very nice pamphlet titled “Human Sexuality: What Children Need to Know and When They Need to Know It” that will be excellent literature to have on board when you talk to you local legislative representatives about passing House Bill 112 next year. Salon Atria was there, weaving multi-colored feathers in girls’ hair. Cupcakes! Cups! Stickers! Pins! Pens! Tshirts! Magazines! I love swag.

A million and one good things happened at Baton Rouge Pride fest but I need to talk about other stuff so moving on…

If you’re not one of the afore-mentioned recluse-lesbians, maybe you’ve seen the 2011 PRIDE GUIDE around town lately? It’s this little magazine put out by PRIDE 1 that informs you of all the PRIDE events happening this week, June 27-July 3 2011. I’m basically about to copy it word for word, just in case you don’t have your own copy.

 I know, today is June 28. I’m a day late. Sorry if you missed GAGA for PRIDE at George’s Place last night because of me.

TUESDAY JUNE 28 CCA is hosting Kings, Queens, & Everything In Between: A charity Pride Show. I already wrote about this last week so check out my older posts or click here for more info.

WEDNESDAY JUNE 29 Sin Pride Night at Splash. No Cover. Really cheap drinks ($1 draft! $2 wells and shots!) Looks like this is gonna be a dance party. I’m pretty sure this happens every Wednesday at Splash, but we’re advertising it as a PRIDE event for this week. Clever.

WEDNESDAY JUNE 29 is also Woof Pack Pride with Chad at George’s Place. 3-9PM? That’s early! I don’t know anything about Woof Pack. I think it’s for the boys. But I might be wrong.

THURSDAY JUNE 30 The Official Pride Dinner at Opie’s Cajun Cafe. 5162 Government St. Starting at 7PM.

THURSDAY JUNE 30 ROUGE at Splash. “Pride from the Girls of Le Femme Rouge”. This is a drag show, I think? 9PM-2AM.

FRIDAY JULY 1 ICONS Pride Party at Splash with performers posing as Madonna, Cher, Tina Turner, and Cindy Lauper. 9PM-2AM.

SATURDAY JULY 2 PRIDE 1 Awards. Take a look at the nominees: 

Voting lasted for one week, during the 2nd week of June. Too bad no one knew any of this was going on until this weekend. Regardless, the awards ceremony is at Splash at 8PM. If you go, stay for the BLUE PARTY happening afterwards.

This PRIDE GUIDE also says that SATURDAY JULY 2 is The White Linen Party at L Bar. But facebook said the White Linen Party at L bar was last Saturday, and apparently the masses thought so as well because L BAR was glowing with white tank tops and white denim after the BR Pride Fest. So maybe we’ll have a repeat celebration?

Finish the week off with a PRIDE TEA at Opie’s Cajun Cafe at 5PM on SUNDAY JULY 3. Then head over to Xtremes (1462 Airline Hwy Gonzales) for the Rainbow Brick Road PRIDE party starting at 10PM.

Whoa. I’m overwhelmed with PRIDE. I mean, I’m just worn out from typing about it all…I can’t imagine how I’ll feel the morning after all these parties!

All PRIDE, No Prejudice.

You guys were aware that June is PRIDE month, right? I probably should have warned you sooner, but I thought it was common knowledge. This weekend in particular is important for us, Baton Rouge LGBTQ people. Get your rainbow flags ready. And I’d like to have this on a t-shirt ASAP, please:

I met some pretty fabulous gay boys at George’s Place last night and in the midst of bonding over queer things, I asked if they were going to the Baton Rouge Pride Fest this Saturday…

They had no idea it was happening.


If you didn’t know, now you know, homos!

BATON ROUGE’S GAY PRIDE FESTIVAL IS THIS SATURDAY JUNE 25 from 12-6 in the Belle of Baton Rouge Atrium.

This is the official BRPride website that has lots and lots of details about the event.

This is the facebook invite.

So the only afterparty I’ve heard of so far is going down at L Bar. And it’s a White Linen Party. Which means, duh, you’re supposed to wear all white.

The thought of wearing white to a bar horrifies me…but a PRIDE party is a PRIDE party, so I’ll be there and you should go too! Check it out on thefacebook.com.


Stepping out of our Baton Rouge boundaries a little, SUNDAY is NOLA PRIDE! And we should probably support our neighboring gay communities, so let’s go!

This is the official NOLA PRIDE website.

And guess what? The PRIDE fun doesn’t stop there. I mean, can you handle it all?! I’m hoping I can.

Next Tuesday, Capital City Alliance is hosting Kings, Queens, and Everything in Between: A Charity Pride Show with drag performances by Louisiana locals. CCA is working on starting an emergency fund for Baton Rouge area youth who have been financially cut off from their families because of their sexual orientation. $10 at the door or find anyone associated with CCA and buy a $10 ticket in advance!

Splash. Tuesday June 28. 9:30pm. INVITE.

AND THEN! There’s more PRIDE festivities coming your way from a Baton Rouge non-profit org. called PRIDE 1 the week of  June 27-July 3. But I need to get through this weekend before I can even think about that, so stay tuned.

Happy PRIDE, y’all! Hope I see you out this weekend!

I’m giving it my all, but I’m not the girl you’re taking home.

I’m totally relating to Robyn right now, and it’s not because we have the same hair color. Have you heard “Dancing On My Own” ? It’s such a lesbian anthem. Am I right or am I right?

I was never really a Robyn fan (outside of that one song, With Every Heartbeat) but one day out of nowhere, this song reached out to me. I especially like the fact that if you didn’t know Robyn is hetero, you could assume it was written from a gay girl’s perspective because there is not a single masculine pronoun in the lyrics.

Ladies, how many times have you been in the corner (of, hmm let’s say, George’s? L Bar? Cajun Cove?) watching a girl you want bad  kiss another girl, and then thought “I’ll just keep dancing over here, on my own, so I don’t look as pathetic as I feel” ?!

This may very well end up being the story of my life, after all is said and done.

But srsly, do you guys find it realllly hard to mingle with other gay women that you don’t already know? They’re always in little groups, talking to each other, not paying attention to what’s going on outside their circle. They have their pre-conceived opinions on you before you even walk up. And if you do approach them, when you leave, God only know what they’ll say about you….OR SO I’VE ALWAYS THOUGHT. But here’s what I’m starting to realize… for the most part, that’s wrong.

Talking to someone you’re attracted to is hard (whether you’re gay, straight, boy, girl),  and being nervous to do so is inevitable. But I don’t think there’s a single lady out there who doesn’t like to know that someone thinks she’s cute, or funny, or interesting. Also, girls are secretly dying on the inside for acceptance from everyone around them.

There’s a post on Effing Dykes that breaches the subjects of  “how do you act when you like somebody?” and “how can you tell if another woman likes you?”. If you need further incentive to check it out, just know that one of the comments on the post was: “Augh I need this. Every lesbian I know needs this. We are an awkward people.”   Hahaha.

Furthermore, Effing Dykes says: “If every lesbian hides behind being “kind of a chicken”, then no lesbian gets laid.  Take an awkward stand.”

And I full heartedly agree. So today, I’m encouraging you to approach your crush next time you see her. I promise I’ll do the same. And maybe we can all talk about it later, yeah?